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I don’t know about you, but since Covid, it feels like we’re inundated with way too many decisions. I was curious about why this is, so I thought that this may be a good topic to write about. In my search, I found out that as adult human beings, scientists say that on average, “we make approximately 35,000 conscious decisions each day. ” I read somewhere that 95% of the decisions we make occur in our subconscious mind. Psychology Today “took it further and after subtracting t

Do you ever feel like you’re just going through the motions of life and wonder: am I taking life too seriously, shouldn’t I be enjoying myself more, isn’t there more to this life? Of course, we all have hectic lives, brimming full of responsibilities. However, lately, I’ve been thinking about the quality of my life and wondering and praying about how to do what I need to do, but to simplify my life and make it a joyful one? As you could probably see from a few of my previous

A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog on “Are your friendships like tonic and gratifying or are toxic and draining you?” While I was writing it, I came across the topic of loneliness, which piqued my interest. The article that I shared in that blog - “The science of why friendships keep us healthy” ( The science of friendship ( apa.org ) ) , mentions that “people who have friends and close confidants are more satisfied with their lives and less likely to suffer from depression.” Al

Recently, I had a few experiences that got me thinking about control and how it affects our lives. I would imagine that we all have engaged in some measure of controlling behavior, especially as most people want to maintain some sort of control over their lives.  Fun fact: When God created us, He created us with free will to make choices that are either good or bad, rather than try to control us. However, it seems as if there are many people who feel perfectly justified to tr

In one of my previous blogs, I alluded to the fact that for many years, I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin. In high school, I felt awkward and thought that I didn’t belong in any of the social circles. Let’s be serious, I think we all felt a bit awkward in high school! Although, I wonder if popular kids, jocks or cheerleaders felt awkward or if they truly enjoyed their time in high school?  I was reading a study in Yale News called “National survey: Students’ feelings a

I don’t necessarily think of myself as a feminist; however, lately I’ve been thinking about whether we as women, are mentoring and supporting to other women, both in the workplace and in our personal lives.  One thing in particular that I've been pondering, is do I spend more time “tooting my own horn” or do I live to lift others up? There is an article called "5 Reasons why women must support other women” by Renata Merino ( 5 Reasons Why Women Must Support Other Women ( link

Have you ever felt krazy about something or someone, but also intimidated by it or them at the same time? That would be me and Pickleball. {Please check out the following article on "How Pickleball Became America's Fastest-Growing Sport" ( How Pickleball Became America's Fastest-Growing Sport ( dogonews.com ) } I’m fairly new to the Pickleball (Pb) scene, having picked up the paddle a little bit over the past two years, but more consistently over the past six months.   I’ve

Have you ever given serious thought to the kind of friendships you have and are they uplifting, life-giving and supportive or are they empty and draining? A few years ago, one of our good friends, (our best man from our wedding) was visiting us and he and I got into a serious conversation about friendships. At that time, I was having some challenges with a friend of mine as well as a difficulty in making new, lasting friendships. As I bared my soul to my friend, I shared with

Last week, I published a blog on “Do your thoughts to define you?” This one has a different twist but includes some overlapping sentiments. By now, you can probably see from the compilation of blogs on my website, that I think a lot. I’m an analytical thinker and planner at the core. And, I wonder, if we were to take a look at our thoughts and actions, from the time we get up to the time we go to bed, what would that look like? In this previous blog, I mentioned that as human

Something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is the power of our thoughts and the impact of our actions. If I were to ask you, do you dwell on your thoughts and do you believe that they contribute to defining who you are? Or do they flee as quickly as they enter your mind? And are you defined by your actions? As I was rapidly peddling on my Peloton, as I usually am early on Monday mornings, I was about two thirds of the way through my class and suddenly became extremely ex

As human beings, each of us has some sort of physical pain, challenges or limitations. And perhaps, as you are reading this, you are in such excruciating pain that you are not sure how you are going to get through it or IF you’re going to get through it. I truly understand that feeling. I have experienced pain so severe, that I have wanted to scream and throw things, and at times, I did. It was the kind of physical pain that is so bad that I became discouraged and felt like g

I’ve wanted kids for as long as I can remember. I mentioned in one of my other blogs, that I grew up with three sisters and that I am a middle child.  Throughout my life I would daydream of having my own family, and for me, that meant four kids. However, as I got older, that number quickly shrank to two kids – twins (a boy and girl). Over the many years that my husband and I have been married, there have been people that assumed that either we did not want kids, or that we we

Boundaries mean different things to various walks of life. From parents setting boundaries for their kids for social interaction, such as “no hitting” or “don’t interrupt Momma” to various types of life’s boundaries including physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, sexual, time, non-negotiable, etc. Dr. Stephanie Dowd, a Clinical Psychologist, says that “Boundaries are essentially about understanding and respecting our own needs and being respectful and understanding of

It’s been almost 7 months since Krieger (or "Kriegs") my sweet German Shepherd boy passed away. For some reason, I woke up this morning particularly sad and missing him, and the tears keep rolling down my face.  I am heartbroken. I feel like I lost one of my best friends and feel so very empty right now. When he first died, I cried for weeks at times, I would have such a gut, wrenching cry, and I felt like I was screaming inside. Seven months later I am experiencing some of t

Do you ever get what seems like a detailed, fleeting thought or feeling that you should do something? It starts out as this gentle...